If you were in an argument with someone, would you start with what you have in common or what your differences are? Chinese diplomatic procedure, following the UN, is to start with commonalities because they are more important. You discuss the differences afterwords. This approach is also backed by argumentation theory. What do Yankee “diplomats” do? This article describes the arrogance and stupidity of Yankee diplomats who wind up lining up the entire Chinese and Russian population against them.